Have you ever think if all your efforts mean nothing? Did you take your work seriously, yet nobody noticed? But, you told yourself, “No sweat, I continue to (put here whatever you love to do) even no one notice it.”
You can play guitar at the garage, write a children’s book at the attic, or sing while sitting on the throne of the bathroom. But, we can’t deny there’s a proper timeline for every situation.
Given my current situation, I decided to quit on committing to publish a blog post every week. Still, I’m reading books (both physical and digital). I’ll continue listening to inspiring talks, expert interviews, and educational podcasts. Also, I’m still writing at least 500 words a day. And of course, I’ll still publish a blog post from time to time.
Frustrations or God’s Redirection
I bet you already experienced frustrations. Unfinished business. Missed opportunities. Regretful mistakes. Plus, the what if’s — what if I do this, I do that, etc., etc…
I already collected frustrations as if I’m collecting NBA cards. Each card has a picture of the basketball superstar. Flip the card; you can see the average points, assists, blocks and other stats. I’m the frustrations superstar. I imagined myself as an NBA card with stats of failures and inconsistencies.
Today, I have to update my stats. Before you think this is a pitiful list, I tell you it’s not. Instead, I considered it as a proclamation of positive change and increased of self-awareness.
“Setbacks are not failures…your effort is a success in itself!” ~Sister Madonna Bruder, aka the Iron Nun
Bro.Bo Sanchez, a known lay Catholic preacher in the Philippines, wrote in one of his earliest blog posts, “success doesn’t teach you much; the only failure teaches you your most powerful lessons of victory.” True enough, my frustrations (a.k.a. failures) taught me the best hard-earned lessons.
I’m writing now my 40th blog post. After more than two years of anticipation, at last, I have my self-hosted WordPress. Ironic, though, I decided to stop committing to blogging, at least for now — as I did before.
You Define Success on Your Own
Life is not just a list of what to do. It is also a list of what not to do anymore. But, we are not really about what we do and don’t do. It is more of who are we becoming.
Successful people inspired us. Their lives gave us hope and message “if I can do it, so can you.” But, their success is not ours. We define success on our own. We just need them as our guides and mentors. And hopefully, a real life friend in the future.
We build our lives and make decisions on our own. Most of the time, we forgot our power to choose. We always have a choice. We’re just afraid of making mistakes and no one to blame about them. We gave too much importance on our ego. As a result, we rob the world from the blessings of pursuing success according to the inklings of our hearts.
We can’t change other people in our lives; we can only change ourselves. Of course, we can also inspire and teach the same way we are with successful individuals who make an impact on us.
There’s no progress without struggles and growth without hardships. As we matured a little bit in life, we tend to understand how the game of life works out.
“Neither do people pour new wine into old wineskins. If they do, the skins will burst; the wine will run out and the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins, and both are preserved.” ~Matthew 9:17, NIV
A new “you” requires a new set of habits, mindsets, friends and environment — also part of the game of life.
Need to Take First Things First
Blogging brought valuable lessons into my life. Not just about writing. I earned the joy of discipline and commitment. I admit, though, more than a hundred times already, I felt foolish and losing my sanity. The truth is, blogging always brought back my senses. I gained a broader perspective on every blog post I published
Blogging is never an obstacle to my writing. But, blogging is just a part of my life. Same as writing itself. How could I make myself a better writer if I messed up my life?
I still need more courage and maturity — as well as to take first things first.
It’s true: consistency is better than cleverness. But, I also need to ask myself, did I use consistency in a wise manner? A consistent smoker is different from a consistent jogger.
I might not get any external rewards and recognitions for all of these. For me, the journey itself is already the reward. It’s more than I could ask. For now, it’s a goodbye.
Thank you for your time and patience with me.
God bless. 🙂